The power of saying NO. Do you say no enough? Are you staying true to yourself and your priorities? One of the questions that I’m asked all the time is, “How do I juggle it all?” I am a mom of 2 girls. I’m a wife, a sister. I own Blissful Eats, and I’m a health coach and I have various projects that I’m working on at any given time…plus I now have the podcast.
How do I fit so much in a day? It is the power of saying, “No”. I think a lot of times we are just super busy, we overbook ourselves, and we just want to be people pleasers. We just find ourselves overbooked with schedules that are jam packed with so many things to do, but how many of those things that you have on your to do list are really, really for you and for your family?
What makes me thrive is living my priorities which is my family coming first. I know when I’m overbooked, I’m not living my happiest life. You can find me in a cranky mood if I’m over scheduled. I always say my family is my number one. I really, really make sure that I actually live that and I don’t just say that.
I try not to do anything that doesn’t align with my priorities. That might sound a little harsh but obviously there’s an exception to every rule. I ask myself a couple of questions when I make decisions.
Before you commit or make a commitment to something, ask yourself these questions.
Do they align with your priorities?
Is it fun?
Does it bring you joy?
Will it help you move forward in life?
If you’re saying no to all of those questions or any of those questions then I really encourage you to think about what you’re saying yes to. Don’t say yes to things you want to say no to. I’m not perfect at this. I’ve totally said yes to things and when it comes down to the day I’m mad at myself for saying yes to something I should have said no to.
I want you to ask yourself those questions. Will it help you get to where you want to be? Stop feeling bad and stop making excuses. If you just explain yourself to people when they ask you favors or when you get commitments in the mail just be honest and they will understand. Just don’t make time for things that don’t align with your priorities.
If you are walking around and you’re not happy and you don’t feel like you’re living your priorities. What is getting in the way of your happiness? What are you saying yes to that you shouldn’t be? Ask yourself those questions and take time to reevaluate what you’re doing in your everyday life. Are the things on your to do list on your agenda or someone else agenda?
I don’t mean to sound harsh. We all have things we have to do, but overall on a weekly basis who are you caring for? Are you saying yes to things that really work for your family or are you over scheduling and doing things that don’t make you happy?
Something that helps me a lot is setting family policies. For us that means we are home for dinner. We eat dinner as a family every single day, we eat breakfast as a family every single day, and we make sure that we’re both there to put the girls to bed at night. Those are our priorities. They don’t happen 100 of the time but when we get asked to go somewhere or do something we ask ourselves those questions, does this align with our criotiies and does this work for us; 90 percent of the time we stick to what’s in our family policies. I encourage you to set your family policies and figure out what works for your family. We have small kids. our policies look different than someone who has older kids.
Food for thought: There is a lot of power in saying no. Ask yourselves those questions and think about your schedule for the week. Are you doing things that really, really make you happy and if you’re not, then I encourage you to say no.
Let me know if you are saying no to something or you’re just re-evaluating what things you are doing on a daily basis.
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